Grit = Effort Perseverance (over the LONG term)!!!
This is why I believe the martial arts are a perfect activity for kids (and adults). Our culture does not promote diligent effort over a long period of time to achieve a goal. Everything is obtainable at the click of a mouse. “Lose weight FAST!” “Get rich QUICK!” “Have it NOW!”…
Everything runs at such a fast pace that we (I believe) we are losing the values of Commitment, Dedication, Perseverance, Patience, etc. We are forgetting how to actually WORK for something for a LONG time to achieve a goal.
With the martial arts in particular (for me) this is what Black Belt is all about. NOT about our ability to fight an opponent or defend ourself on the street (although the first is admirable and the second is necessary) but about how we react to adversity and overcome challenge.
The martial arts journey tests us to see if we have the staying power to achieve what we say we want to achieve. Each rank promotion is a small test in a LONG line of tests for us to find out what we are made of on the inside so that eventually it will be matched by the belt we wear on the outside.
We need to anchor this idea into the lives of our children. We must teach them to never give up…to keep going even when it gets tough, or they feel like they might fail…or even when they say they don’t like it anymore. BUT…the only way to do this is to model it for them. WE…the grown ups…have to live out the values of Commitment, Dedication, Perseverance and Patience in our own lives. Only them will it show up in the lives of the generation that comes after us.
There is an awesome TED video that speaks to this at https://www.ted.com/talks/angela_lee_duckworth_grit_the_power_of_passion_and_perseverance